Thanks all for some really good advice, today I have done a few things and it has definitely improved my play.
Step 1. Watch a couple more videos.
Step 2. Take into account I do have a plush carpet, those SDTM shots, I am not going to maneuver out of, but the outlane ones, I have got a method.
Step 3. Tighten Legs, this needed doing and the game feels "tighter" because of it too.
Step 4. Re-level - after tightening the legs, the game went off level.
Step 5. Take out entire bob mechanism, the wingnut wasn't tightening up and needed taking down to the vice, dousing in WD40 to get it turning on the pin, took that up and down a few and reattached with the bob further up.
Step 6. Refine and enjoy.
I am now getting only on "Hey" on my serious nudges on the outlane and my "taps" will now generally not cause any tilt warning at all, so three is certainly enough for me with the setup actually working right.
NF is a cruel mistress though, I have smashed the 1,000,000,000 a few times today, usually with a 200,000,000 either side of it, oh and of course those amazing 400,000,000 first balls that end on 520,000,000 all drained. The final mode is still eluding me.
Lovely.