The middle lug is just there to make it simper to solder the two diodes on. Not all coils need two diodes, hence not all are supplied with the third lug. On bally, i think it is the presence of the solenoid expander board that leads to this doubling up of diodes on coils. The middle lug is not connected to the windings of the coil, so you can almost certainly use the two lug version, you just have to fashion the second diode connection yourself in the middle of the plastic between the external lugs
Many coils have a gap in the plastic for a third lug to be inserted, you just poke a diode through here and bend it into a middle lug